Just placed my first ad, no doubt in a few hours it’ll be lost among the thousands of other single guy’s ads who are also hoping to strike it lucky. Therefore what I want to know is, what makes an advert appeal to you?
I guess good pictures will for most people, well I have a picture but you’ll see it’s more the length of cricket stump than cricket bat, never had any complaints right enough but im sure 99.9% of people say that in their ad’s, after all all us guys are studs who last for hours right!!? Maybe Get a big cock shot?

In my humble opinion (and my opinion only) cock pics aren’t sexy. If you want to stand out from the crowd you need to have something which projects your personality. People are sexy – not individual bits of anatomy.

I’m saying this from personal experience, we had a blow job pic on our ad and when we asked what people thought the general concensus was that explicit pics arent the sort of thing people want to see first. As for the bit about you,well im sure you could say a few more interesting things about yourself, you must have some interesting facts about yourself.
You need to be a bit more friendly as well i think.. as a woman, your ad seems a little bit arrogant – it seems like you’re saying “this is me and tough s**t to anyone who’s got anything to say about it” which isnt necessarily a bad thing, but it seems a bit cold.
Apart from that, its good, you give relevant and thorough information.

If we wanted to rent a room in a hotel/motel for a few hours for some adult fun, hows it looked on by the hotel/motel? In other words, does it happen a lot where a room gets booked and paid for and the guest leave in the early hours?

It’s done on a regular basis the hotels are not bothered when you book out. They are there to run a business not to judge morals. Hotels are now, and always have been, meeting places for people to have sex without other people knowing. The hotel staff know this. If they have a problem with that they shouldn’t be in the hospitality trade anyway! I have booked a room just to change and freshen up and booked out at all sorts of times. Just pay in advance. If you use one of the Camponile chain of hotels you dont pay for breakfast if you dont have it. They just debit your card for the one night.

Chain hotels really don’t care about that sort of thing – mostly they’re staffed by people who really couldn’t give a stuff. I can imagine it being a bit uncomfortable staying in B&Bs though, as they do tend to be some old dear’s pride and joy!

Travel Lodges and such places are good for this, they are actually cheaper at the weekend as they cater for people travelling on business during the week.

You can turn up any time and pay cash in advance (one chain has now stopped this, they want a credit card and ID) and you can keep the room til 12 noon the next day. So what time you leave is up to you – if you stay only a few hours it won’t bother the receptionist!

Absolutely no problem with the large, Motorway side type of hotels, although more are asking for id if you pay cash. You dont need to book out when you pay in advance and the card type keys mean you dont even need to hand your key back in.
The reception staff must be used to it because its getting very difficult to get them to raise an eyebrow. Ibis rooms are available from noon, if your looking to have fun before collecting the kids from schooll.

If you’re looking for some weekend fun try the Copthorne Hotels – at weekends they’re about 65 quid if you go through the right booking agent , and they are SO much nicer than travel inns which are about 50 quid a night.

Travel inns etc. are designed for business people to crash in, so they’re quiet and basic – they also feel a little bit seedy, which I guess could be a plus if that’s your thing.

The Copthornes are built like a porn movie set – huge rooms, big ensuite bathrooms with mirrors everywhere, a bath you can just about fit two people in, and in the one I was in, a big kitchen worksurface type desk thing across one end of the room which was at the perfect height, quite strong too. The one we were in (Birmingham) also gave us no hassle at all, despite the fact we made a hell of a lot of noise .

If you’re looking for somewhere really special, I reckon hotel Pelirocco in Brighton looks amazing, and their rooms blatantly aren’t designed with sleep in mind! If anyone goes there, please can you give me a review – I really like the look of it but I’ve never made it down there!

People all smell different. We have very much lost the sense of smell.

I used to like a particular perfume on an old girlfriend, it was wonderful, drove me mad with passion.
bought some for a subsequent lady, but it smelled terrible.
different skin chemicals
Thus sometimes I love a woman fresh from the shower ( but please with out the soap taste)
othertimes I like a woman’s fragrance to be more developed,
and so long as she is clean then fresh from the gym is a rare treat. Sweat is wonderful so long as it is not stale.

I like the smell of sex.

The smell of a woman after really great sex. I don’t mean the smell of semen, but the smell of sweat and hormones and pheromones and sexual excitement. It makes me horny just thinking about it.

The thing is that most women don’t seem to like how they smell after really great sex and want to bathe to wash it off. Yet, to me, its probably the biggest turn on int the world.

If you could bottle that smell…

Something I’ve always wanted to know but have not had the courage to ask before. Ladies can you describe how it feels when you take a cock inside? I’ve read that only the first 2 or 3 inches of the vagina have nerve endings, so that begs the question does it make any difference how much deeper it goes? Also what do you feel when the guy cums inside.

Here is my comparison with the intention of making sense. its not just the physical feeling of the cock that makes it more pleasurable, for instance, you can recive penetration from a object, vibrator, dildo etc but to have the body of a male ontop of you holding you from behind etc is all part of the pleasure, well for me anyhow.
also depending on the angle etc can stimulate different sensations, the g spot, and preasure on the clitoris.
When a guy cums its the knowledge that my body has produced that effect on him, and also i belive that a man swells in size just before this happens??? as for the feeling of actual cum, well shame on you you should be using a condom.

If a female is pleasuring me orally or when we are having intercourse, is it necessary for me to occasionally tell her or express to her how good what she is doing feels? In other words, some people groan, grunt, and tell their partners when they do something right, therefore their partner knows you are enjoying whatever they are doing. Is this good idea?

Well, on the one hand if you don’t tell her what you like, hows she going to know? Plus, as the old saying goes, if you want to get a second blow-job it helps to make the other person feel good about giving the first one.

But necessary – I guess that’s between you and your partner. Different people relate in different ways… some people don’t say a word during sex, others shout out YES YES OH GOD YES; some like to give instructions, saying “lick there, suck there, harder, softer…”, while others let the giver get on with trying to hit the right spot. If silence feels most comfortable for you and your partner, then it’s not absolutely “necessary” for you to give a running commentary of grunts and groans.

Do whatever happens naturally. If someone is getting that intimate with you, they want you, not you pretending to be the way someone has told you to be on a website!

Personally, I find there is nothing less satisfying than faked porn-film moans, and nothing more satisfying than making someone naturally quiet lose control and make a racket!

As far as feedback goes, someone who really wants to give you a great time can get a lot of feedback from involuntary signs, like speed and depth of breathing, muscles tensing, and of course the old favourites – wetness & firmness.

However, if the 2 guys want to try each other out, the best thing to do is discuss it first so you know how far it’s going to go.
Richard is straight so there is no chance of him doing this so we know even if another guy is bi, cards onthe table – don’t touch my man! (Besides he has too anyladies who need his attention)

I have had two of my guys try each other out in the past.
Best way is do what you normally do – a spitroast, and let the guys move onto each other.
Start with handjobs and move onto blowjobs.

If there is going to be penetration make sure it’s decided who will go in who – to many guys this will be losing their “virginity” and it needs to be relaxed and no pressure.

I had the flip of a MMF where one guy was bi-curious and I had a gay male friend join us -no contact between me and him – it was so the curious guy could try gay sex. He had his “anal cherry” popped quite spectacularly (I was quite jealous my gay friend wouldn’t oblge me- after all, an ass is an ass).
He seemed OK on the night, but in the week following he had a difficult time coping with it.

For a bi curious girl a bit of hands and oral doesn’t hurt.
For a guy who is bi-curious, it’s a very dificult way to find out that you’re straight!

I first tried MMF out when Nat and I were playing with another couple we have known for years, in fact they were the first couple we ever “played” with. They are a lovely and very highly sexed couple and over many meetings with them both Natalie and I have become totally comfortable with them and started trying out lots of stuff we would never have thought of. As both Natalie and Tiffany (name changed), his partner, love multiple penetrations he and I got into some pretty close positions together. Once, about a year ago, he and Tiff were enjoying a 69 and I was shagging her at the same time (I think Nat was taking a “fag break”) and I suddenly felt my balls being sucked and played with. I love this and after a short time exploded in Tiff’s puss. Well after that the ice was broken a bit and he and I do go for a bit of oral on each other which the girls love to watch and help us with, sometimes criticising our technique!

I have had oral from a guy a few times since then, although when swinging I tend to keep the fact that I am cool with this a bit quiet in case it freaks the other guy of the couple out. Also I have to admit I don’t mind sucking the odd cock if its a nice smooth one Natalie laughs at me for this, she says “whats a nice one? They are all nice!” but I know what I mean!). I also must put on record that guys do give very good bj’s! Maybe its like the girls say about bi experiences – only a girl knows what a girl likes – could be similar
with guys.

Nat loves the fact that I am cool with this stuff, and in fact admits its a big turn on to watch me “playing the pink oboe” as she so delicately puts it. I find that in a close foursome situation with another couple its great if there are very few barriers and if
something presents itself in front of my face and looks like it could do with sucking or licking (male or female) then I tend to go for it.

You do tend to err on the side of caution with new couples though. We met and played with one couple a few times until we found out the other guy loved some oral “bi-play” and that was only because he noticed one of our ads somewhere we had put that I could be orally bi. Both of us had kept quiet about it in case it freaked out the other one!

I found myself in a situation connected with MMF a few years ago where i met a friend of mine for a drink ( i knew he was bi from years ago ), anyway after meeting his missus and having a number of drinks we ended up at their house where we ended up naked on the frontroom floor, after we took turns to lick her out she said that she wanted to watch us suck each other off and funnily enough i let it happen, he has quite a large cock ( 8 1/2″ ) but i found it quite enjoyable when i did let him put it in my mouth, anyway, after that we took in turns to have sex with the girl but just as my mate was about to come she wanted to watch me suck him again as he come, i was a bit reluctant to do that but all of a sudden he pulled his cock out of her and straight into my mouth and shot a huge amount of cum into the back of my throat that i had no choice but to swallow it, can’t say that i liked the taste of the stuff just didn’t have much choice though.
After he pulled out of my mouth i looked at her and she loved watching that so i just put it down to experience in the end, i’m not gay or anything as i prefer women any day of the week but it was an interesting evening, funnily enough they are married with 2 kids now but i still see him around occasionally, and a few times he has been to my flat to get a blow-job and still i let him cum in my mouth, no idea why i swallow the stuff but it must have seemed like a good idea at the time, just as well my missus doesn’t know.

I think people who stay at swinger dating site for more than a week or two go through phases. How the phases work out depend on what sort of person you are but there are definite phases, which I think condition you into tending to identify with soul mates, which I’ll come to later.

The first phase is one of uncertainty and some bewilderment. An introvert will read and watch (wisely) and gradually be drawn out into the next phase. The less judicious (like me) will shoot their mouth off and cause a bit of a stir.
The second phase is one of starting to make connections – often little sparks of appreciation (sometimes mutual) which warm the heart and start to make it fun. This usually extracts effusive expressions of bonhomie of orgasmic proportions – good swinger site currency.

The third phase is one of occasional contrast which can disappoint and attract the odd rant ‘Am i being ignored here? Why did he/she say it like that?’ (been there – done that!). Won’t dwell on it but it is an important phase because it makes you think so you can enter the fourth phase.

The fourth phase is one where you realise that this place is not here for your benefit or to appreciate you and you’ve got to put in some quality to get some out. This is actually quite a good phase because you start to think about who really is the sort of person you wish to maintain contact with and then you do it through the Forum in one fashion but through PMs in another. Yup some real friends emerge.

The fifth (and final?) phase is when you’re Godlike and you can appreciate all the newcomers coming in and going through the phases.

Anyway the purpose of the post is that I think people tend to identify with those going through the same phase as them and so if you look at the joining date chances are those with whom you identify will have joined at roughly the same time. Not strictly true but a tendency.

The thing is, swinging takes maturity and confidence in yourself and your relationships that younger people rarely have.
I know plenty of young guys who would love to shag me, but when it comes to shagging their “birds” it makes them think again.
“Older” people are more mature.

And it must be said, more experienced.

A young guy of 25 maybe living with someone for the first time, balanced against a man of 35 or 40 who has had plenty of experience – years of experience and practice – with his partner and various lovers, who REALLY knows what he’s doing, I’ll take the “mature” option every time.

In fact my first time at a swing party I was taken very directly, and gently, by a man in his early forties, an experienced swinger and it was a great introduction. A “Boy” of my own age, slobbering and over-keen would have been the opposite of what I wanted and needed.

Of course he enjoyed having a supple, pretty young girl to do it with, and most of the guys we swing with are open enough to admit that, but I could appreciate an older guy who knows what he’s doing as well.

To be honest, if young man and his friend are really as good looking as they think, and really are models/dancers/strippers, they wouldn’t have any problem finding willing good looking people on the scene they already frequent.
The fact that they are here indicates otherwise.

Of course, it’s always good to give people the benefit of the doubt, so maybe a pic on their profile or a reason why not would clear up any doubt either way.