You’ll often see in the Sun or OK Magazine that *insert dull “celebrity” here* has shed a few pounds and looks so much better, but when was the last time some skinny bint gained a few curves and the media said “Dull Celeb has put on a bit of weight, and she looks fantastic for it”?

Never!!

Now I’m not advocating obesity, and I’m not suggesting that everyone should like big girls, but some women are larger, same as some are taller or some have darker hair, and I for one think they look terrific!

I’m not knocking anyone who prefers slim women, good for you if thats what does it for you, each to their own. But for me personally I want my lover to have breasts, thighs, hips, a tummy…

The sight of a big girl in lingerie or a sexy nightie drives me wild, the way it accentuates the curves, the warmth, the womanliness dammit. Put a thin woman in a sexy nightie and its all straight up and down.

I just don’t get this whole obsession with thin = good and large = bad. I saw an advert (it was on a Hotmail advert I think)that showed a woman before and after losing weight complete with the usual “send us all your money and you could get thin like this” and I honestly preferred the “before”. At least she had breasts and hips and shape then, not to mention a smile!

So good luck to all the guys out there that want their girls to look like rakes and spend their life half starved and worrying whether their “arse looks big in this”, if thats what works for you then great.

But give me a real woman, one with warmth and zest and curves and life and passion every time.

And when she asks me if “her arse looks big in this” I shall say “Oh God yes!!” and take her straight to bed!

The porn industry has gone as far as it will ever go. What ever has been thought of has most likely been done already.

Well there are a lot of us who have seen a lot of porn. And what we would have thought as being the holy grail of porn  is now no longer so titillating as we have seen it a 1000 times over. We have become more sophisticated in our seach for turn ons. No longer do we seek silicone enhanced models who fake their orgasms and bore us to death. We look towards genuine people participating in porn and getting thier rocks off, to use an old phrase.

What on earth do you want from porn anyway? It’s never going to be an ultimate experience is it! Only sex with a real live person is going to do that!

The success of the bangbus/milfhunters/etc sites shows that there is a market for new ideas (for those who don’t know these are gonzo-ish porn shot in a rough pseuo-documentary style, and work on the premise that the woman is being ‘picked up’ at random then gradually convinced to go further and further – sometimes the hardcore elment is only the last 1/4 of the episode). I’ve yet to see this formula coupled with good camerawork, good acting, good editing, or a girl who pushes things on a bit herself when she gets going!

The ‘virtual sex’ videos are another new area – these are shot from the man’s point of view, finally, porn where men don’t have to look at other men doing the grimace face!), and feature 1 on 1 action that the dvd watcher can jump between – directing the action.

I think we’ve still not seen the end of the backlash aginst the ‘bad boob job and bored’ american girls either… it’s going to be a while before everything settles back down and we strike a happy balance between the opposing silicon and gonzo camps.

Another point is that good quality video editing, dvd duplication and web sales are now possible on a very low ‘hobby’ size budget… everyone can make porn now – so if you can’t find what you want… go make it!

Porn will sit largely where it is because it makes money. The porn industry is actually quite conservative. There is a kind of “dustcloud” around the main industry where new ideas get sucked into the gravitational well of the money and marketing – but for the most part people churn out what sells. Much like any other industry I guess.

It’s actually really hard to sell unusual or “different” porn, but costs the same – if not more – to produce. For instance – I can get enough photo’s to run a run-of-the-mill porn site (ie, blonde, artifical, pussy, cumshot) for around 6 months for a little over 1,000 quid. Where-as a single photo-shoot for a niche spanking website with two girls can cost almost the same and give you about 1 weeks content….

Look at the music industry as an example of a similar industry I guess…. We all moan about bland pop music, the charts being boring, manufactured bands etc etc. But it’s a good return for the industry – so they don’t have much incentive to do anything else. Sometimes something new pops up like Acid House, Grunge, Drum’N'Bass, BritPop, Post-Rock, etc etc – but pretty soon it’s made mainstream and the edges rounded off so it can be made more cheaply and sold to more people. Look at Punk I guess.

Most of the interesting porn out there is made by keen amateurs. That’s where you find the fetishists and just downright odd people (for instance, there are a few fetish sites for “invisible women”….!).

Anyway -  – if you want some interesting porn then either make it yourself, or pay someone to make it for you!

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The possibility of severe bleeding in this department is quite common and great care is needed here, so it begs the question, why use a razor or any kind of sharp implement in an intimate area of such delicacy in the first place, the more you shave the faster it grows and the greater the chance of cutting oneself? I know not everyone can use cream or mousse due to some people having bad skin reactions so a test patch is needed and left for 24 hours to see if there is any kind of skin reaction to the chemical. But after doing a test patch and finding all is well, then after a one off action of removing most of it with scissors it is then a simple matter of spraying on the mousse, front, back and undercarriage, leave for 8 to 10 minutes then shower off. There is no chance of nicks, cuts, razor rash or the fear of bleeding to death. So what could be simpler or safer.
I have been using the mousse as opposed to the cream because I find the cream a bit sticky and slightly more inconvenient to shower away. The mousse is quick, easy and convenient and you can do the awkward bits without the need for help. If you live alone then asking your next door neighbour to help you shave your rear nether regions is not a good way to enhance community relations, well not in my block of flats anyway .

I have been body shaving for many years but now only use a razor on my upper chest due to this being a boney area and lacking in flesh, so the mousse or cream tends to leave this area looking like a beetroot and quite tender, so I do not recomend using it there for the guys. I have also tried waxing but I am not keen on that kind of pain. No matter what anyone says waxing hurts, well it certainly hurts me and thats for sure.

Spray it, leave it then shower it. All done in about ten minutes and no blood .

As an aside, I was bored the other night and ended up browsing through the “men seeking men” ads and I learnt a new phrase: “cock fun”. Truly, is there any phrase imaginable that’s more horrific than “cock fun”? Does anything match “cock fun” for sheer nauseating vulgarity? I’m straight – nothing against those who aren’t, I just really like women – and after that experience I’m very very glad to be straight. On the plus side, at least that proves gay men are no more romantic than the rest of us.

Anyway, I’m rambling, so I’ll get back to the point. Don’t be disheartened. There certainly are plenty of couples out there with bisexual males – I’ve seen the adverts. I can symphathise with the way it seems like all everyone wants is a quick orgasm or two, but I think it’s probably just that the ads system attracts that kind of person. You’re clearly very eloquent and have a lot to offer, and if you hang out in the forum or the chatroom for a while, I’m sure you’ll start to build up friendships with people, some of whom will turn out to be compatible with you and some of whom will turn out to be local, and before you know it you’ll have found people who will rock your world.

I will stress though – this is a family naturist beach!!! And so everyone should be treated with respect and visitors should act with due decorum as there will be young children present. It is a beach for naturists and not a beach for hedonists. I believe people who have acted in an inappropriate manner in the past have been reported to the police – and quite rightly so given the nature of the beach. This said, if you have kids and take them along, I would strongly advise that you do not let then go into the dunes – either alone or accompanied. They are frequented by ‘mere cats’ and it is a common meeting place for gay males in particular.

If you are after a pleasant official nudist beach in Kent then Shellness on the Isle of Sheppy if on your doorstep. Accessed by an unmade road but with parking right on the edge. ( no long hikes, that suits us )

Its a typical nudist beach with its collection of meercats and older generation single guys with half an erection. No offence meant to the older generation but thats what we see.

In the dunes you will find some exhibitionists and on the beach couples who like to sun bathe naked. At the far end you will find a gay section but most people are freindly whatever section you use.

A word of warning to the people who think its fine to stare and wank without even chatting. Some guy got a punch from the girls boyfriend when he felt it was fine to stand at the bottom of her towel and carry on wanking when he was told to get lost.

That does not mean nothing happens there as we have had several good times but they are by invitation only not just because someone felt that as we were nakd we were ” gagging ” for it. So guys use your brains ( not the one in your pants ) have a freindly chat and as with all things in this scene, dont be pushy.

Nudist beaches Abroad,

Fuerteventura,  a superb nudist beach: The Zone of the Dunes stretches for about 20 miles south of Corralejo in the north east of the island. The dunes area is anyting up to five miles wide. Wonderful scenery and it looks like you are in the Lawrence of Arabia movie. A good road runs parallel with the beaches and it’s anything from a five to a fiftenn minute hike from parking places to the very many bays, some with decent beach bars and small restaurants. Clothes are rare, though it’s usual to pop on a loose top if going into the bars.

At the north end of the dunes area are two large-ish hotels, usually full of German tourists. If you find yourself taking the sun au naturel don’t be surprised to see large numbers of mahogany colooured Germans wearing flipflops, hats and shoulder bags and nothing else. They hike the full length of the dunes every day, or seem to. A call of guten morgen will be cheefully returned.

The sunshine fair beats down there but you will be cooled by the breezes that roll across from easte africa.

So, next time, forget Lanzarote, Gran Canaria and the rest, go enjoy Fuerteventura.

Bodrum – Turkey: Little known rocky bay with clear water and nice views. Oh yes and lots of randy locals. Just come back from there.

Don’t worry too much about how you look, as already been said, we on here look beyond appearances (fact, otherwise no one would ever speak to me and I would never get a shag) Its the inner self that is important, good looks just happen to be a bonus. There is, truth, openness and honesty which are far more important than peoples appearances. I am sure you will find if these other meaningful qualities rise to the top then looks, beauty or any other surface appearances pale into insignificance . In male mode I suppose I look a little craggy, I don’t allow this to stop me from doing what is important to me. In my world people are often obsessed with how they look and their appearance sometimes takes over their life to the extend that some of them spend literally thousands of pounds to alter their looks but no one can change the inner self, to quote a well worn truism and a famous song, we are what we are or “I am what I am”. So rightly said “Let your personality shine through. It works every time, enjoy.

First one – if you pick up girls when you’re out. I presume this is at a club or something, therefore alcohol involved? This will do you no favours in the sensation department. So if you intend on having sex with someone, lay off the drink.

Second one – although you do use foreplay, maybe you’re not using it enough? If it’s after you’ve been out and you’re outside then it’s not easy to spend time on the foreplay. Try meeting someone, not sleeping with em, taking them out another night and booking a hotel room if you can’t go back to either house. Then spend a whole afternoon/evening just on foreplay – not going at it like trains ,  just take it slow and explore each other. Gentle touches and caresses is a lot more erotic than banging away at each other. Doesn’t have to be just intimate touches either, a cuddle and a giggle in between is fun too! A combination of both of the above points would surely work? You said alcohol is not the problem and you do use foreplay ……. but when you masturbate, you don’t have a problem with cumming. Is that when you’re at home, not been out, completely relaxed and able to spend the time? Never do ‘token’ foreplay, and don’t let your partner do it either …….. there is nothing more offputting than knowing someone is only touching you to make you cum asap. Hence the going at you like a train – you must feel a certain pressure to ‘perform’ when someone starts on you like that?

There is another possibility here . It may be that you’re getting caught up in a cycle of worrying about cuming, so that puts stress on yourself, which can stop you cuming, so you get even more stressed, so you go at it like a train and still can’t do it, so get really stressed.

I think the answer may be a steady girlfriend in/or a more relaxed environment.

Lets face it, a quick knee-trembler, round the back of a club isn’t the best place for stress-free sex.