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Advice when posting to the forum and replying to adverts

I hope some of you single men will find this useful.

1.Be honest and modest
It’s no good claiming to be 5ft 10, 12 stone with 15 inches if you’re 5ft 4 15 stone with 2 inches. Dishonesty might get you to the door but unless all of your encounters are blind you’ll get no further.

2. Be intelligent & polite
Compose an intelligent, polite reply (Unless the advert you’re responding to suggests otherwise, don’t use F*** S*** etc.)

3. SPELL correctly
Many people find bad grammar and spelling a turn off.

4.Show respect
Show respect to all. Unless they’ve indicated that they want you to talk dirty und use words like slut and whore.

5. Read the advert
Someone advertising for a 6ft 2inch Blackman with a 10 inch dick DOES NOT want a 5ft white man with 3 inches. If you’re borderline (they’ve asked for 7 inches and you’re 6, they want 35 year old and you’re 43 ) be honest state where you fit the profile and where you don’t.

6. Sell yourself
Tell them what you’re really good at without exaggerating,

7. Aim to develop friends
If all you’re looking for is a shag pay for it. Many Swingers want to develop friendships, not just provide a shagging service for you.

8. Take NO gracefully
Don’t reply with nasty comments, you’ve not been rejected, you’re just not the perfect candidate. “Thanks for considering me, if you change your mind you know where I am” is a nice`positive way to end correspondence.

9. Photos
Most ladies know what a dick looks like. Unless specifically requested they prefer a face, full body (clothed) or profile. That proves that you look normal, confirms your build and helps your prospect to decide if they might fancy you.

10.First meeting
Meet in a pub, expect no more than to buy the first round, chat and leave.

11. The first session
Respect the people you’re with, don’t be selfish. Show a sense of humour and ENJOY.

12. Don't get your hopes up

13. Say where you're based and if you can travel

14. Let them know if you're willing to accommodate

15. Give some indication of your likes/dislikes/boundaries/limits/turn-ons/turn-offs

16. Give some indication of the extent of your experience on the scene - some people don't want hardened swingers - others might want to keep out the newbies

17. When advertising put you advert in the correct category(ies)
Adverts in the wrong section just prove you're braindead and will get moved anyway.
Thing is - most of this stuff should be bloody obvious.

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